For the last year a man at work has been flirting with me. It started out with him showing physical attraction - looking me up and down and progressed to what seemed to me to be more emotional attraction - gazing with soft eyes into my eyes and always looking at me (at my face) with an almost besotted look. We got on well and chatted and joked and he always looked at me in a group. I felt attracted to him too and returned the looks and eventually my I developed feelings for him. But just as I felt something could happen, he was transferred. I saw him a couple of times after that, by chance - at work dos. He was still looking at me - he even whispered in my ear that I was lovely and very good my job. We found ourselves alone and he kissed me - very softly and tenderly ending with a tender eskimo kiss. I emailed him and he never replied - his excuse was 'work email was not private'. Do you think he had feelings for me or was I just part of a game for him. Surely if he cared (he said he did) he would not ignore me and leave me pining like this.

He's absolutely right, work email is never private. Have you given him your number or any other way to contact you outside of work?

Acutally he got my number off a friend - when he phoned I was so happy. But then I realised he was only phoning to ask me not to do anything at work about trying to bring him back to my department (he said he wanted to come back but would sort it out himself). He talked a bit and was sweet and said take care in an emotional way but he never phoned again.

We got along and talked and joke and I always looked at a group. I was attracted to him too and he turned his eyes and over time I developed my feelings for him. But just when I felt that something could happen, he was transferred. I saw a couple of times after that, by chance - in two of work. He was still looking at me - I even whispered that I was beautiful and very good my work. We are alone and kissed me - very gently and tenderly ends with a tender kiss Eskimo.