If you look around it is obvious that certain women just make better wives and partners than others. They are less likely to cheat, become walkaway wives and are also less likely to grow to resent their men for whatever reason. Men want to maximize the odds that we will have a happy marriage that lasts because we have seen so many of our peers go through nasty divorces or end up in marriages where their wives seem to hate them.

Why is it that these men are called sexist, misogynistic and closed minded for simply wanting to avoid the drama that goes with picking the wrong woman?

Isn't it perfectly logical for somebody to want to maxmize their odds of having a successful relationship?
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If someone is aggressive and is projecting that towards you the best strategy may not be to react or defend. The question to ask is What fear inside of me is reactive to this situation!. You would not be reacting to someone unless you have experience it before and judged it negatively.