I'm usually really good at figuring out men but this one has me confused on his intentions... The problem is that while I know he is interested, I don't know if he's just another guy looking to get layed. I refuse to date him because I'm unsure about him and I think this fuels his interest. Some of the things he says and does make me think he's sincere, but other things show he just wants to get me into bed. Does the fact that a guy is "smooth" mean he can't have genuine feelings for me? I really like this guy.

Jay (we'll call him), is 24 and a bit of a partier who lives in West Hollywood. I met him at a bar when I was talking to his friend that introduced me to Jay. It was immediate sparks, he's dark skin, fit and gorgeous, pretty much physically the man of my dreams. Jay told me he was glad his friend introduced us because he would have never had the confidence to approach a girl that looked like me. He offered to buy me a drink and we talked for quite a while. Later, I joined my girlfriend and some other guys approached us. Jay wandered over and made himself present to signal that I was with him. It was a little forward, but it didn't bother me since I was really into Jay, and not the other guy. Later, my friend and I joined Jay's group again. His friend who introduced us put his arm around me. Jay immmediately pulled him aside to tell him that he was interested in me (in a nonconfrontational way). When we all left the bar he literally swept me up and carried me across the street saying he was going to "buy me pancakes." Our group ate at IHOP, and he fed me my entire meal!

He has asked me out on several occasions since then and I have declined. On Valentine's Day a week later, I went out for drinks with single girlfriends and we stopped for late night food. He texted to ask what I was up to, and before I had a chance to invite them to join us, they beat us to the restaurant we were walking to. It was really sweet that he wanted to see me so badly on Valentine's Day. And he didn't try to put any moves on. He said he was just "excited to see me."

Here are some of the comments he has made (keep in mind there has been alcohol involved)- "I'm mesmerized by you," "we would have beautiful kids" and "you'll never get rid of me." I barely know Jay and if I weren't crazy about him already I'd probably go running in the other direction. Help, I don't want to get hurt!