Hi i've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now 1 of which was long distance. We now live together and our relationship is pretty good except i find myself sexually frustrated aLOT. thats why im on here right now as a matter of fact. It's come to the point where i don't even try and be romantic and work my way into it, im so tired of just getting "nooo" or having her fall asleep not getting the hint or having the drive that i just straight up ask "Wanna have sex tonight". Just so i know if im not getting any so i don't waste my time trying. We're both in our lower 20s and i never imagined having my sex life feeling like it's all going down hill so young. I admit it's not exactly as exciting as when your first with a new person and doing it for the first 10-20 times but at least i still try. I would say on average we have sex once every 6-7 days(i try at LEAST once every 3 days unless something is really wrong) and i feel like i have to f***ing beg for it when i do get it. She comes onto me seriously probably once every 2-3 weeks at the most.

I ask her if she's just not that into me and she says yes she is but i don't think so or she would obviously want it more right? I could understand if that were true because we werent really a first sight jump in the bed couple we talked for months and months as friends beforehand and i never really looked at her in the beginning as a girl id want to have sex with because she's a bit bigger and that's pretty much my biggest turnoff. But putting that aside i think about everything i do like about her and it's still enough to make me want to at least try every few days.

Im wondering if we are just completely sexually incompatible and it's going to keep getting worse and worse as years go on, which would suck because i kind of always saw myself with a person that would feel the same as me about it but im not sold if i ended up with one. Don't get me wrong i love her to death she's my everything but isn't sex a positive thing for 2 people that love eachother? Also you know how sometimes your with a girl and you can just feel the sexual tension?.. ya we never really had that honestly. i wasn't physically attracted to her like that when we first started dating i loved her personality and everything else. idk if she felt the same about me physically but i didnt feel like it because she was always grabby and touchy touchy in public so i thought she was pretty satisfied to be showing the whole world . idk if i should have took the physical side more seriously when considering being with her when we were new but i didn't think it would matter as much as it does now. i don't just give up i get GRUMPY..really grumpy. i dont really like bringing it up with her alot b/c she's going to ask questions about why it means so much and idont want to upset her and say you dont satisfy me 40-50% of the times i want it.

The last thing i want to do is start looking at other girls because it makes me think about it, and i would never in a million years cheat on her so it just reminds me im stuck frustrated and my sex life might always not live up to what i want and it's depressing. Ive asked her at least5-6 times to lose weight(imagine how hard that is to ask someone you love and think you might crush them) because i do not like it one bit she says ya ya ok. goes to the gym loses 20. quits gains back 25. im like ****k it matters to me. She won't take the time to look into a proper diet and it's driving me nuts. she wont just start eating what i tell her thats for damn sure. im trying to let her know in different ways like that losing some weight might help out our problem and she might feel better about herself and want too more. btw not saying im mr perfect because im not but i know when i cross the line with my body and im nowhere near needing help.

I just want to know if anyone else had a relationship like that where it wasnt really physically based at the beginning and it eventually turned into a problem and what did you do about it. did it work itself out or was it too much in the end.